Earlier today in class, we are divided into groups and assigned to present a short skit about the functions of a family and its members. As my groupmates and I started to discuss our skit, I was disappointed that my female groupmates suggested that the "mother" stay at home and do housework while the "father" goes to work and does practically no housework. When I objected to the idea and told them that maybe it would be nice to have both parents work and do housework at the same time, my female groupmates frowned and rejected the idea because they said that that's not normal. (Notice that I keep mentioning my female groupmates only coz the guys pretty much kept quiet). Since I was outnumbered and I didn't really want to ruffle feathers, I gave in to their concept.
What's even more disappointing is that two other groups had the same concept of a mom staying at home and the dad going to work. While another group portrayed a widowed mother who was depressed and couldn't function properly.
I do not mean to undervalue housewives. Doing housework all day is definitely hard work.
What bothers me is the fact that everybody's concept of a family is pretty much the same, as if they are programmed to believe that all moms stay at home while dads go to work. And the widowed mom was portrayed as being weak. And they even told me explicitly that a mom going to work and a dad doing housework is not "normal." My groupmate also told me that the girls should help their mom with the housework while the boys dilly-dally with the dad.
It seems that even with all the technological and ideological advancements of our generation, a lot are still stuck in the gender-typing of the yesteryears.